Feel calmer. Think clearer. Know what to do next.
Donna Sunario BSc writes about the patterns behind overthinking, guilt, pressure and self neglect, in plain language. Start with whatever is heaviest right now. Everything practical on this site is free to read.
Which one sounds most like you right now?
- Stop overthinkingYou replay a conversation. You think of every possible outcome. You cannot work out what to do first.Feel more settled and know how to come back to the present.This sounds like me
- Rest without guiltEven when you stop, part of you feels you should be doing more.Pause without feeling you have failed.This sounds like me
- I'm tired of carrying everyoneYou notice what everyone needs. You step in. You end the day with no room left for yourself.Care without carrying everything.This sounds like me
Reader note
So profound yet so simple to understand and apply!
The same three steps, in every book.
Understanding a pattern and changing it are two different things. This is the bridge between them, and it is deliberately small enough to use on an ordinary day.
Step 1
Notice
Catch what is actually happening, in the moment it happens, without arguing with yourself about it.
Step 2
Name
Give it plain words. A pattern you can name is far easier to work with than a mood you cannot describe.
Step 3
Choose
Pick one small thing you will do differently next time. Not a new life. The next ten minutes.
Choose the problem you want to solve
Why Can't I Relax?
Rest without guilt
Why Do I Feel Responsible for Everyone?
Care without carrying everything
Difficult People Clear Mind
Keep your peace and your judgement
The Enough Effect
Stop proving and feel satisfied
The Nervous System Tax
Recover your energy
Full Life, Empty Inside
Feel connected to your life again
The Self-Reliance Trap
Ask for help without feeling weak
The Self Neglect Pattern
Stop putting yourself last
Red Flag Ready
Spot manipulation before it becomes normal
Paid to Be You
Build a career around what makes you valuable
White Collar Jobs
Protect your judgement, income and authority
The Wealth You Build
Turn what you know into lasting wealth
The Human Habitat
Create surroundings that support you
The Office Psychopath
Protect your reputation and keep your power
The 90 Day Overthinking Reset Journal
Quiet the mental loop one day at a time
Donna Sunario BScAuthor, Behaviour Strategist and Educator
Donna spent more than twenty five years inside demanding corporate environments, including Goldman Sachs, BP and Accenture, working close to senior leadership. Her training spans psychology, psychotherapy, coaching, clinical hypnotherapy and behavioural change.
She writes in plain language about the patterns shaping work, identity, relationships and rest, and every book moves from understanding the pattern to practical steps that change it.
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