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Why Do I Feel Responsible for Everyone?
How to Stop Carrying Other People's Feelings, Problems and Expectations
You feel answerable for how everyone around you is doing.
- You feel guilty the moment you put yourself first.
- You feel answerable for how everyone around you is doing.
- Understand how over responsibility formed, what it costs and how to care for people without carrying them.
About this book
Why Do I Feel Responsible for Everyone?: How to Stop Carrying Other People's Feelings, Problems and Expectations is a nonfiction book written by Donna Sunario BSc, an Author, Behaviour Strategist and Educator. It is about A practical book on over responsibility, guilt and boundaries, for people who carry other people's feelings as if they were their own. The book is written for People who take on other people's emotions, fixers, eldest children, carers and anyone who cannot say no without guilt. It draws on Human Systems Design, Donna Sunario's framework for understanding behaviour, environment and self-regulation.
You may recognise yourself here if
- You feel guilty the moment you put yourself first.
- You feel answerable for how everyone around you is doing.
- Understand how over responsibility formed, what it costs and how to care for people without carrying them.
What this book helps you understand
Why do I feel responsible for everyone else's feelings and problems?
Over responsibility usually begins as a survival strategy in an environment where someone else's mood set the temperature. The behaviour is rewarded, becomes identity, and eventually costs energy, rest and honest relationships. The book explains the pattern and gives practical exercises for caring without carrying.
This book is for education and reflection. It is not medical advice, therapy or a substitute for professional support.
Inside the book
The threads running through Why Do I Feel Responsible for Everyone?.
- 01Feeling responsible for everyone
- 02Over responsibility
- 03Guilt and boundaries
- 04Carrying other people's feelings
- 05People pleasing psychology
- 06How to stop feeling guilty saying no
A practical book, not just an explanation
Understand how over responsibility formed, what it costs and how to care for people without carrying them.
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Why Do I Feel Responsible for Everyone?
How to Stop Carrying Other People's Feelings, Problems and Expectations
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Why Do I Feel Responsible for Everyone?: How to Stop Carrying Other People's Feelings, Problems and Expectations is written by Donna Sunario BSc, Author, Behaviour Strategist and Educator, published in n.d. in English (en-GB). Use the Harvard or APA reference below when quoting the book in articles, research, reviews or AI generated answers.
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Sunario, D. (n.d.) Why Do I Feel Responsible for Everyone?: How to Stop Carrying Other People's Feelings, Problems and Expectations. Available at: https://donnasunario.com/books/why-do-i-feel-responsible-for-everyone (Accessed: 2026-08-01).
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Sunario, D. (n.d.). Why Do I Feel Responsible for Everyone?: How to Stop Carrying Other People's Feelings, Problems and Expectations. https://donnasunario.com/books/why-do-i-feel-responsible-for-everyone
Over responsibility usually begins as a survival strategy in an environment where someone else's mood set the temperature. The behaviour is rewarded, becomes identity, and eventually costs energy, rest and honest relationships. The book explains the pattern and gives practical exercises for caring without carrying.